Naz Ersan

I believe individual therapy helps the collective grow and learn, and I love working with how we show up in relationships. Whether that be intimate partners, friendships, families and/or our community. I have a particular interest in applying counselling models that focus on how we relate to ourselves, the truth of who we are behind our survival instincts, how we seek and give support and how we show up for our community. I feel that we all share a core wound that says, “I am not good enough, as well as “I should be able to manage this on my own”. The difference is that some of us are more aware of those suppressed, uncomfortable feelings/beliefs than others. Yet we all share the fear of bringing those wounds to our awareness, even the bravest and most courageous people have the fear of acknowledging their suppressed beliefs about their worth. You will find that my collaborative, accepting and curious approach towards your counselling goals will help open up the underlying causes you would like to address.

When we gently strip away unhealthy obligations, expectations, manipulations and borrowed beliefs from others, something quiet and powerful happens.

In my sessions, you will learn skills that allow you to stop exhausting yourself by shrinking and trying to belong. Instead, you will feel supported in finding the bits of your truth that got lost along the way. 

With patience, compassion and application of strategies, the responsibilities you choose will start to feel meaningful. They will come from your own deeper truths rather than someone else’s expectations. If you apply what you have digested from our sessions and test drive it in your daily life, you will likely feel shifts and changes take place. You may even be surprised to find out that at the beginning of counselling, it’s not that your environment changes at all, it’s more that you take a different perspective about the environment you would like to change.

You will not find me celebrating or teaching “resilience” or “positive thinking”. Instead, I aim to remove the layers of fear and conditioning that made resilience necessary in the first place. You also will not find me pressuring you to make decisions that don’t feel right for you.

When that happens, courage and clarity become your natural way of being, no forcing required.

I’ve watched this ripple through hundreds of times where relationships soften, children grow up with a healthier parental framework, work feels alive again, and the people around you feel they have permission to do the same. My values strongly align with the healing power of the collective. We are, after all, pack animals; we thrive in connection.